Dealing with negative people
There comes a time in everyone's life when you have to deal with a negative person. The problem occurs when they are a close friend or family member. So how do you deal with negative people in your life?
I'm no expert but I feel like negative people seem to be more prevalent when we are either lost or starting to taste success. I've always had to deal with people who are very negative and try to bring me down simply because I give everyone the benefit of the doubt and am incredibly nice to everyone I meet.
As I grow older and decide consciously to distance myself from negativity, I find the negative forces in my life scream even louder and want to keep me down. It's really starting to bother me to the point I have no motivation, drive or energy to do anything.
Success comes at a price, and for daring to dream big, I get hounded and told I will never amount to much. I've had people tell me I will never get married, have kids or ever be a good person until I follow the path they set out for me. It used to get me really down because these were people I considered very close to me, and to feel that negativity turned towards me was very uncomfortable.
After a lot of soul-searching, I have decided to distance myself from negative people altogether. If I don't have to be in that sphere constantly, they can't get me down. But what if the negativity comes from your parents, siblings, partner or your best friend? Short of cutting out everyone from your life, it's hard to deal with it.
The best way is to make the person understand that their actions and words have consequences, and right now you are not in the place to hear them or act upon their advice. You love them, but it's not the right time for them to get their message across to you without hurting you and damaging your relationship.
Does this work in my own life? Well, I am trying my best to be more assertive, and all it's gotten me so far is people pushing back onto me. And that's OK.
Change takes time, and in order to change your world, you must change yourself.